LIFE’S A BITCH BUT YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE!

SNOW is a FOUR-Letter-Word in my house. Typically I’m pretty chill about the weather but this winter has changed all that. I’m pissed!

Living in and raising children in Minnesota has been divine. The people, schools, and seasons are amazing! Well, all but one season that is..winter. It’s not the cold that bothers me so much, it’s the ice and snow…and we have had so much of it this season. I know the entire planet is experiencing weird climate changes and they are not fun.

Frankly, it’s made me a little grouchy today. I’ve held out on doing much posting on social media because I haven’t wanted my yucky vibe to wash over anyone or anything. My clients rescheduled due to the snow, ice, sleet, wind and thunderstorms so I’ve had some time to think.

The other day one of my kids borrowed my car and forgot to return the key. It was lost within said child’s room. As a result of that and the snow, I was late to a meeting and unfortunately, totally bitchy.

I apologized to my client, a smart business owner and explained that I would be more relaxed in a few minutes. She said, “No problem, just be who you are.” I loved her response and thought…I’m not being who I are, I’m being how I are!

So I’ve been pondering the art of moving from a heavy place emotionally speaking, to a light place. Not because I feel heavy right now but because through my work and my life in general, I meet people in various stages of grief. As a medium, I’m a conduit between worlds so am witness to some pretty glorious moments of forgiveness, clarity and closure. There are a few recurring powerhouse components that elevate and escalate the process.

The pivotal factor is our willingness to change.

Change is challenging for most of us, especially when it involves death, divorce, or any other emotional crisis. As a medium and intuitive coach my clientele includes people who have experienced at least one of the above in a big way.

Let’s face it, most of us have experienced some level of emotional crisis.

Because we have gone through or are in the midst of a crisis doesn’t make us special, it just makes us survivors of life’s bumps. Everyone experiences some level of tragedy and sadness and I am in no way playing that down. Clearly, some wounds go deeper than others.

I am not a therapist and so not qualified to speak from a psychological standpoint. I speak from a spiritual standpoint.

Finding a way to move through the pain and not be defined by it is vital. Knowing the darkness and choosing to move toward the light deepens the colors in our soul. Everything then has more flavor and brings greater delight.

In my experience, when I feel blue or depressed it is horrible and I find it difficult to see with any clarity. But we are all more than our feelings and emotions. This means we are not depression even though we may feel depressed. We are beings of light and when we are sad that light seems dull or even extinguished, but it is not.

When I remember that what I’m experiencing is just a moment in my life, I feel empowered. My energy is ignited, my thoughts fill me with light, and the light fills me with joy.

So what’s the fastest way to get there?

Excerpt from The Happy Medium: Speaking the Language of Intuition

For centuries musicians, philosophers, poets and the like have searched for the key to happiness with as much passion as the many scientists who study energy in its countless forms. What’s interesting is that happiness is an actual energy. If only they had all gotten together and read the Winnie-the-Pooh books by A. A. Milne, they may have found their answers neatly tucked within the pages.

Do you remember Eeyore, the cynical character in the Winnie-the-Pooh books? He’s Winnie-the-Pooh’s ever-glum, satirical, and doubtful donkey friend. In his eyes, nothing ever goes right, so as “luck” would have it, nothing much does.

And then there’s Pooh’s enthusiastic, energetic, optimistic—yet less-than-responsible—mischief-making tiger friend, Tigger. He loves to bounce around and thinks that whatever he does, he does best. He’s happy-go-lucky, and so as “luck” would have it, things repeatedly turn out well for him.

So what does this have to do with lightening our mood?

If we are willing to go with a more light-filled thought versus the dark ones, our mood is elevated. The higher the thought the more light. The more light, the more happiness and insights.

It’s true that what we see is what we get. This is not only a mind-set—it’s an energy-set. Our “luck” is simply a manifestation of our vibrational energy frequency. Our vibrational frequency is the level at which we radiate. It’s the vibe we radiate.

What’s your vibe?

The higher the thought the brighter the light.

When we feel irritated by someone’s driving or attitude, just be as neutral possible. Neutral is of the light so this means you are getting closer to it!

Remember…

People see things as they are, not as we are.

We are not our emotional state of being. We are souls made of light.

Our feelings show us how we are not who we are.

Being willing to lighten our thoughts lightens our emotional load.

Being willing to change changes everything.